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The Eulogy

- Following is the complete text of the eulogy for William given by Pastor Paul Goodman of Mechanicsville Christian Center, an Assembly's of God Congregation. This was William's home church and Pastor Paul has known William for many years. Some brief remarks, and a final goodbye from me follow.

- During the viewing, a separate room was set up in the funeral home adjacent to the viewing room for the teen-agers and young people to retire to for personal time and mutual support. Many of William's belongings and photos were placed in the room for them as well. This more private area gave them time to grieve away from the family and adults, and I believe much healing took place there. Pastor Paul spent a lot of time with these young friends of William during the viewing, and collected many of their stories and remembrances for use in the eulogy.

- As a footnote to this entire experience, many of those young people are now attending church and renewing their relationship with God. Some of these are attending MCC. Please keep these young people in your prayers, remember them often. They, like William, cannot be forgotten.

Eulogy of William Jenkins
August 16, 1997

- My name is Paul Goodman and I am the pastor of Mechanicsville Christian Center, the church that William grew up in as a boy. With me is also Rev. Gene Jenkins, who is a great-uncle of William's and pastors in Tallahassee, Florida. We are here today, with you, to honor, to value, and to remember the young life of William Benjamin Jenkins. We are here because we want to express appreciation, we want to acknowledge the importance of his life and that everyone here in some way has been touched, their path has been crossed, whether it be recent or whether it be for many years, you are here to say "Thank you, God" for the life of this young man. We are also here today to share our grief together, acknowledging that there is in our hearts great sadness, anger, and injustice in the way in which William's life was taken.

- Wednesday night we all together began a journey -- the family, the friends, and the community of Richmond. We began a journey together. It is bringing us here today. It is a journey not one of us wants to be on. It's a journey that we know we shouldn't be on, Bill as a father, Licia as a mother, a sister and a brother, Paul and Mary, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, family members, friends, friends who have come from Tennessee to be here of Williams, friends like Russell and Alan, and Adam. We are all on a journey of grief. But we hope today, we are also on a journey of faith. A journey of faith that can lead us to a place where we can say, we are coming today to ask God for something. We are asking God to touch us. We are asking God to reach us. We are asking God to be real to us in a very tragic moment and indeed to help us.

- The Bible says, "Blessed are they who mourn for they shall be comforted," and we are mourning today. A friend of another young man who was killed prematurely, wrote a poem, and the first line of that poem is this... "It is hard to contain so great an emptiness." It is hard to contain so great an emptiness. We are grieving. This grief is so strong, and it is so new to some here today who have not lost someone who is close to them. And we are mindful of that, especially for the young people. A young woman wrote this poem with the loss of her friend. She said, "Lord I am drowning in a sea of perplexity. Waves of confusion crash over me. I'm too weak to shout for help. Either quiet the waves or lift me above them. It's too late to learn to swim." And that is the way of grief.

- When words fail, the tears flow. And we have seen young people and older people join their hands and their shoulders and they have wept a river of tears. You know tears have a language all their own, God made us that way. They are a tongue that needs no interpreter because in some mysterious way our soul knows when to admit its verbal limitations, and the tears begin to flow. And so hurting hearts are weeping today, and mere words do seem so inadequate, especially for us who are here to address the needs. And so we would ask you to listen. Listen to the voice of God, for he knows how to speak to each one of us in a way in which we can hear. The great scholar, C. S. Lewis, said God whispers in our pleasures, but He shouts in our pain. And so today, we ask that you would look up into the face of God and you would listen because our prayer is that He indeed will speak to us.

- God has given us great promises by which He is able to speak to us today. Psalm 27, verse 1 says, "The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear. The Lord is the strength of my life, of whom shall I be afraid. I will lift my eyes up to the hills from whence my help comes. My help comes from the Lord who is the maker of Heaven and Earth. The Lord is near to all who call upon Him. To all who call upon him in truth. Fear not, for I will be with you. Be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteousness and my right hand indeed will keep you. God is my refuge and God is my strength, a very present help in time of trouble."

- Join with me in prayer. Father we have a deep need for your presence today. We invite your Holy Spirit to come in such a way, in which you bring mercy and comfort. We reach out to you our dear Father, and ask that a miracle happen today, that you pull back the curtains and you allow us to see a greater reality. You allow somehow us to learn something from this and gain something through this that will make a difference in our lives. Will you keep us on the path of life and of truth and will you allow that mercy to come in such a way that it lifts us and carries us. We ask this Father in Jesus' name. Amen.

- Who was William Jenkins? He was an intelligent young man. He was a reader. He was a thinker who looked at things from many sides. He was an artist. He was known as a protector by many. He was known to protect his young brother and sister many times. Others have told us how he stood up on their behalf as well. In our church where he grew up as a young man, in our programs of church ministry, children's churches, and our boy's programs Royal Rangers, the leaders remembered him as a friendly child who possessed a quietness about him. His grandmother said he was the kind of boy who was likable by all ages, young and old. And that she looked forward to him coming to visit them every time that he did.

- He was the kind of boy who was not afraid to hug his mother, in front of his friends. As a matter of fact, he was known for hugging his mother quite regularly. Recently, his mother told me, just last week, she was bugging him about his hair, and she said, "You know, you would look so handsome if you would pull your hair back in a ponytail so I could see your face." And so on Monday, he showed up with his hair pulled back in his ponytail, and he said to his mother, "Mom this is the Steven Segal look. I hope you like it." He had a close and precious relationship with his mother.

- His father was proud of William and his accomplishments. He said he was proud of what he was doing on the day that he was killed. He was working and being a responsible young man. He said, "He was my son and he was my friend." His Cub Scout leader showed up at the funeral home, his Boy Scout leaders showed up as well, and they said things like this. "He was bright. He caught on fast. He stood out among the other boys as a leader." One said, "He was just a joy to be around in the pack that they were in." And they told a story about one campout that they were on and he took charge of the chapel service for the other boys, and planned it, spoke at it. They said he was a boy who had a strong faith in his heart.

- His friends said that he was the sweetest guy they ever knew. He was easy to get to know. He would let you into his life and you felt close to him. You knew he was there for you. Many said he didn't drop his friends because he felt that they truly depended upon him.

- William as a young man was watching a TV program, a movie, The Life of Christ. He began to ask his mother questions about who Christ was and what it meant to be a Christian. Not soon after that she saw him kneeling on his own in their kitchen, by a chair, and he was praying, and he was asking Jesus into his life, to forgive him, to be his Savior. But that wasn't enough for William, because just a couple of years later, he thought it was time for his younger brother to become a Christian. So he asked his mom, how do I help him? And she told him. And so he went to him and the two of them in their bedroom prayed together to accept Christ and to acknowledge who Jesus was to them. And then the two of them ganged up on his little sister, Mary, and they talked to her and they said it's time for you, and the three of them together they prayed with her that she indeed would recognize that Jesus is the Son of God, our Savior. All three of them were baptized in water not that long ago, three years ago at our church, before they moved to Tennessee.

- William was 13 then. His mother said, William was a teenager, and William was exploring, asking questions about different religions and philosophies. He was investigating things. He was interested in what his friends were interested in, but he was always made it clear to her whose side he was on. His parents said we are confident in his faith and we know where he is. One of his Boy Scout masters told me this. They said, "We were on a hiking trip at Lake Sharando, and we went up to one of the overlooks, Humpback Rock. And we were up there climbing." If you've ever been up there you know it's a wonderful place to be, beautiful view, but dangerous. And so this leader was with William and they jumped down from the higher level to the lower level and of course the scout leader stopped because the next level to jump to was dangerous and you would keep going, but William kept going, and he grabbed William by the shoulder and he pulled him back and the two of them peered over the precipice and looked at the ground below and William turned back to him and said, "I think you just saved my life" and the scout leader said "I think I did."

- I want you to know that Wednesday at around 10:30 at night, when William died, the hand of God grabbed his shoulder, pulled him back out of death into heaven, and William looked up at Jesus and he said, "I think you just saved my life." I believe that. I believe that in the child's heart, in a young man's heart, he acknowledged and recognized the reality of Jesus Christ.

- Yes we all go down different paths, we ask different questions, we make different journeys, but the heart is the heart that knows. And William knew.

- Today we are the community of the hurting and we are drawn together by the preciousness of a teenager whose life was taken from him unfairly. But we are also not only the community of the hurting we are the community of the helping. And we believe today that words shared, and prayers prayed and deeds done can triumph over death and triumph over wrong. And we believe that in a way we can't understand we're summoned here today by a great need and also by a great God. And for each of us our shoulders are needed to lean on. Our hands are needed to hold. Our eyes are needed to weep. Our hearts are needed to feel. And our faith is needed to trust. And our love is needed to forgive.

- Each of us, our resolve is needed today to love and to forgive and to treat others the way we indeed want to be treated. Part of William's legacy will be this, it will be how each of us today chooses to respond to what has happened to him. That is an important legacy. How will William's life and how will William's death affect us? How will we respond?

- You need to know what decisions his parents have made. They have told me that losing William, as we can all understand is the most tragic and hardest thing that they have ever experienced. His mother Licia has said this, "I believe God is good. I'm angry and I'm hurt, but I still trust God." They've been asked, "Is your faith shaken by this?" We can understand that question. They have responded by saying, "Our faith has been strengthened." Yes they wonder where that guardian angel was at that moment. But they have said this, "God is the one we run to not run from. He is the one who is bigger than all of this, bigger than any man or group of people who could take our son's life." And that God doesn't cause such a thing, but He certainly can redeem it. That because God has given His creation a free will, He therefore doesn't control every moment. But when we give moments like this to Him out of our volition, He will take those moments and control the outcome and redeem it and bring good out of it.

- His father told me, "If I had the man who killed my son in my grasp for 24 hours, I would take him to church." He said, "I know deep sadness, but I don't know rage. There is room in my heart to forgive who did this." He said he doesn't believe there is anything wrong with Richmond that love, compassion, mercy and forgiveness can't fix. And that there have been others who have experienced the same kind of tragedy and this is what they hope, they trust that the death of William will somehow lead to saving lives in the future.

- And for each of us, that the legacy that William was in life, and now is in death that he leaves us will indeed be a summons to all of us in a way in which God's love expressed through Jesus Christ can touch the people that we meet the rest of our lives. And so let us grieve today. Let us look into the face of God, and let us listen for His voice, because He will speak to us.

Bill's Remarks at the end of the Funeral

- I want to, on behalf of the family, thank everybody for the amazing and overwhelming outpouring of support, prayer, and love that has been expressed to us over the past two days, three days. Very difficult days. I want to share with you a couple of ways that William's memory is going to be preserved.

- William's memory is going to be preserved through the William Jenkins Memorial Scholarship Fund which will be administered by the Community Foundation. It is going to be used for students going to college, studying at college.

- William's memory is going to be preserved through the memorial scholarship fund in his name set up for students in the Fine Arts Department at Virginia Union University, where I teach, to continue to help people.

- William's memory is going to be preserved through the enormous generosity of Dr. John Ware who breeds daylilies. He talked to me the other day. He has several new varieties he is going to be registering and he wants to register one in William's name. That is so sweet.

William's memory is going to be preserved, found this out last night, through a screenplay that [a] friend of the family ... has been writing....She needed a model for a character in this screenplay, and she said to me, "I needed to use the best kid I knew." I was deeply touched.

And William's memory is going to be preserved in me and you, and many others, who share and treasure their experiences, and their times with him. Some stories that I don't know. Some stories I may not want to know. We treasure memories, you guys have them, I have some, we all have some. They are precious.

In expressing your sympathy to me and the family this week, you have said something over and over and over again. Out of nearly every person's mouth has come the words, "If I can do anything for you. Whatever I can do, you let me know." All right, I've made up my mind, and we've got you all here, so we're going to do this, okay? I want you to go home, I want you to tell somebody there that you love them and you appreciate them. And then live that out everyday. Everybody can do that. That's what you can do for us.

Let's only have good things come out of this one bad thing. Only good things.

The other recurring theme in everybody's heart has been the words, "I don't know what to say. There are no words to express." Well, you're right, there are no words. No one has ever invented the word, or words to express fully what we experience. That's okay. Language has its limitations. The message still comes through, and I appreciate that.

The only writer that has ever come close to partially, a fraction, expressing a fraction of what we feel today, and if I can indulge myself, Shakespeare says at the end of Hamlet, "Now cracks a noble heart. Good night sweet prince, and flights of angels sing thee to thy rest."

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On behalf of the family, and all of us here who were extraordinarily close to William, you've expressed your sympathy to us, and your care and concern and love. And I really feel that I have a responsibility and a duty to do this for you as well. You have our deepest sympathy, and we are very sorry for your loss. We are praying that God's peace, His mercy, His love will richly bless you, thank you so much.

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